For better or worse. Those words seem easy to say at the time, but when worse gets really bad, many couples are ready to throw in the towel. That’s because they didn’t seek help in time and let things get out of hand.
The Stigma of Counseling
So what’s the stigma of relationship counseling. The stigma is that we often will believe that when we come to marriage or relationship counseling the counselor will be biased, take sides, judge, or misunderstand us. I’m not saying that this can’t happen in marriage and relationship counseling but this just hasn’t happened much in my office. When you are in need of marriage or relationship counseling it is vital that you explore each and every option. Stigma should not override the crisis that has occurred or may occur in your marriage or relationship. Think about it, at the least you can walk out the door and not come back.
Broken Trust
Whenever you have experienced broken trust in a marriage or relationship, it is important to get the support that you need to learn to re-establish that trust. Waiting too late can mean game over! So if there has been an extramarital affair, financial infidelity, or betrayal, these are things that often need to be resolved with the help of a professional counselor. One way to determine that you may be an exception to this rule is by simply reflecting on how well you and your spouse communicate through difficult situations. Even when the communication is strong, and events such as an extramarital affair may not be easily remedied. A therapist would be a good option to help you build trust in your relationship.
More Frequent Arguments
Have you been having an increase in the arguments that you find yourself in? This is often a sign that something has been brewing in your relationship, and the lid may be about to blow off. Notice that an increase in arguments is a symptom that there has been a communication breakdown that needs to be immediately repaired.
You’ve Experienced a Devastating Event
A devastating event such as a loss can have a huge impact on your marriage or relationship. Many studies suggest that there is a significant increase for divorce when there has been a loss of a child. There are other traumas associated with crisis situations that call for additional prayer and support for couples who experience them. Each spouse will respond differently to crisis and many times this can pose problems for the relationship due to simple misunderstanding.
If you have been impacted by a devasting event. Don’t hesitate to seek some level of support to help you navigate through this crisis. Additional support can be a vital piece to preserve or salvage your relationship.
About Choya
Choya Wise, LICSW, PIP is the owner of Aspire Counseling and Consulting Services a mental health clinic in the Huntsville, Al area. As a licensed mental health professional Choya specializes in individual counseling, marriage counseling, and anger management counseling. He also offers Social Work Supervision in Alabama.
If you have been having issues with building intimacy in your marriage or relationship, it may be time to seek a professional relationship counselor. If you are a couple looking for marriage counseling in Huntsville, Alabama, or any parts of Alabama, allow us to support you with steps to build your relationship. We provide online therapy in Alabama.
