How Can A Relationship Vision Board Help You
In this blog, we talk about a relationship vision board and how this is crucial to supporting you in choosing your dream relationship. This blog is for individuals who are searching for someone special, but within each new relationship, you encounter different people with the same personality traits. Those repeated cycles can make you feel defeated as if you have to settle. You may even begin to wonder if there is anyone that can reciprocate what you provide in relationships. Let me propose a question. Have you ever considered the type of man or woman you desire for your relationship before entering a new one?
Relationship Vision Boards Help Us Break Bad Cycles In Relationships
Having a vision for your relationship is key to breaking those cycles. I believe that one of the reasons we get stuck in bad relationships is because we lack vision. Sometimes, when waiting for those relationships, we lose focus of the vision and begin to allow different types of situations to walk through the door.
How much have you sat down and thought about what you want out of your relationship? Have you prayed about what you want? Have you ever written out the things that you need or desire within a relationship? Well, today I am proposing to you a relationship vision board. Although vision boards are not new concepts, the idea of a relationship vision board allows you to put more focus on your desires for your relationship. After you have sat down and put thought into your needs and wants, write them out on the vision board. Add details for clarity. You can even put that man or woman, or the vision of them up on the board. Do these things so that you can see it, and start to believe it.
Stay On Target By Setting Clear Non-Negotiables
The goal of the relationship vision board is to help you remain focused. It’ll create an opportunity for clarity so that you will not allow everyone into your space. But to better understand what you want to have in your relationship, you have to get specific. The details you incorporate are crucial to the process. Ask yourself some important questions. What kind of person do you want to be in a relationship with? Do you want them to have a job, and what kind of job would you like them to have? Is honesty important to you? How do you want them to make you feel in the relationship? These are just a few of the specifics that need to be written down. I did not have a relationship vision board, but I had a vision for my relationship before getting married. My list was extremely specific and consisted of about 40 different things. It was so detailed, I even included how I needed her to have a good relationship with her father and things of that nature.
You also want to include the non-negotiables for your relationship on the relationship vision board. As emotional individuals, we tend to get caught up on the things that look good, and we simply forget or even ignore the things that have negatively impacted us in relationships. Those negative things have probably caused a lot of hurt, heartache, and pain. Adding those non-negotiables to that relationship vision board will help you stay focused and goal-oriented, and not fall back into the habitual bad relationship cycles you may be used to. Write the vision down and make it plain.
Understand How To Avoid Red Flags
Once you have created your relationship vision board, you have to remain vigilant in keeping your focus on the vision. What this means is once you meet someone, and you’re hitting it off, you cannot begin removing or changing things on the vision board. Just because this person appears and is appealing to you on the surface level, does not warrant a lack of vision for your relationship. When you remove things from the vision board you alter the vision. Oftentimes when you compromise on your vision you fall back into those bad habits and start to repeat cycles that chip away at you or ruin the relationships altogether.
Understanding yourself and your relationship vision board will help bring awareness to the red flags that you would normally ignore. Incorporating a list of red flags in the details of your relationship vision board is just as important as the non-negotiables. Not all flags in a relationship cause you to run away but keep in mind that a lot of them do. Knowing where to draw the line for yourself and your relationship allows you to have a voice in the situations. It also means that you have an opportunity to handle the problems early on, rather than letting them continue to compromise your vision and become a bigger issue.
Stay The Course, The Dream Will Happen
So often, men and women move from one relationship to another too quickly. This is considered a coping mechanism and is done so that you don’t have to face yourself and your thoughts. But the best time to create the vision board is after that relationship. That is a time when you typically have more clarity and understand what you are desiring out of a relationship.
Lucinda Cross in her Vision Board Series, documents how to create a relationship vision board. She also discusses how this impacted her making the right choice for her marriage. Her vision board was very detailed and intentional. She describes some of the things that she included. “I used this Love Board to write down the kind of relationship I desired. My Love Board was flooded with characteristics, values, and mannerisms. I added my mother and father, my grams, and pappy. I included stories of successful marriages, scriptures and the whole shebang.” One year later her man, now husband showed up, and the rest has been history.
After you’ve created your vision board with the specifics, set your boundaries and expectations, understand where to draw the line, and how not to compromise that vision, now you have to wait. Waiting may be the hardest part of the process, but patience makes the process prosperous.
Give the relationship vision board a try, and let me know if you have any questions or concerns about that. Again, this is Choya Wise with Aspire Counseling and Consulting Services, and I hope that this has been helpful for you today.
About The Author
Choya Wise is the owner of Aspire Counseling and Consulting Services a mental health clinic in the Huntsville, Al area. As a licensed mental health professional Choya specializes in individual counseling, couples therapy, anxiety, and depression counseling. He also offers Social Work Clinical Supervision in Alabama and Anger Management Classes.
